This morning, as I was looking through my Facebook newsfeed, I stumbled upon a Huffington Post article titled The Day I Stopped Saying ‘Hurry Up.’ I was more intrigued by the title of the article than anything else, so I clicked it and began reading. This article was not what I was expecting, and it fits in perfectly with what LOOK AT US NOW, MOTHER! is trying to shine a light on: parental abuse towards children.
This mother, in short, talks about how she likes to stick to a schedule and be timely. Her young daughter, however, is not like that at all. She likes to take her time, and never seems to be in a rush. Time was never of the essence for this little girl, who was trying to enjoy the simplicity of what we like to call life.
So the beginning of the article is going through how the mother was living her life vs. how the daughter was. She then brings up the day that she stopped saying “hurry up.” She was picking her daughters up from school, and all of a sudden, she saw a reflection of herself in her older daughter…and realized that she had been bullying the younger daughter into rushing through life so that she could keep to her schedules. In the article, this was a powerful moment to read. After the incident, the mother ultimately realized that this was no way to raise her daughters, and changed her outlook on life. Readers, I highly encourage that you read the article.
So, what’s the lesson behind all of this? Watch what you say to your kids and how you say it. Even though you think your approach is the logical one, you won’t know how your child is reacting to it, unless it’s evident. Luckily for this mother, she was able to see a reflection of herself in her older daughter and was able to fix the solution. Kids are impressionable, and rely on their parents to be their role models. Parents, set good examples for your kids, and treat them the way that you would like to be treated in return.