Happiness is something everyone desires to achieve, but many have trouble finding it. People can go on for years trying to be happy, believing that they were maybe not meant to be happy or that people in their lives or certain misfortunes prevent them from being happy. However, according to an article in the Huffington Post, “Happiness Tips: 13 Experts Weigh In On The Pursuit Of Joy,” you don’t have to look too far to find it. There is no specific key to happiness, but there are a few attitudes and mindsets we can have that will lead us there. Several experts contributed their ideas, secrets, and beliefs to obtaining this desire.
Many of these experts believe that acceptance, forgiveness, and trusting in yourself and others are a large part of reaching happiness.
‘”Trust yourself. If you don’t learn to trust yourself, you will never be happy. You’ll always be deferring your authority to someone or something outside of you.” -Paul Selig, author of I Am the Word: A Guide to the Consciousness of Man’s Self in a Transitioning Time’
Basically, happiness starts internally. You can’t let certain outside situations or people affect how you want to feel. This can tie into another idea that several of these experts believe: happiness is our choice.
‘”My one piece of advice to anyone who is on the pursuit of happiness is to know that you have a choice -we can always choose to be happy. No, I am not talking about some saccharine, superficial ignoring of what is hurting attitude. In every situation we can decide how we regard the circumstances and our perspective then determines how we move forward or not.” – Marilyn Tam, author of The Happiness Choice: The Five Decisions That Will Take You From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be’
Happiness is not about merely ignoring negative situations or people that are hurting us; it’s about not allowing them to hurt you in the first place. How you react to certain situations is completely up to you, and as Marilyn Tam stated, these reactions can help us move forward.
‘”Count your blessings … pray every day … honor God by taking care of your body and mind … remove all negative people from your life … learn to forgive yourself and others … watch as many sun rises and sunsets as you can.” -Richard Simmons, American fitness personality and motivator’
I think that we should take a minute every day and think about how fortunate and blessed we are. There are so many people in this world that are suffering, and we complain when our cellphone breaks or our internet goes out for a day, or our favorite television show gets cancelled. Think about how some people lose their homes in natural disasters, some don’t even have homes or these luxuries that we have to begin with.
We can also prevent these negative situations from happening by removing the negative people, taking care of ourselves physically, and taking a breath to enjoy the smaller and beautiful things around us. We should not dwell on the bad, but we shouldn’t simply ignore it. We should remove it entirely. If we used the energy we used focusing on the bad things, to trusting ourselves, forgiving others, choosing to react to things in a more positive and powerful way, making others happy, and appreciating what we have, we will realize how much happier we can be.